This post will talk about how a Christian can get over a friendship breakup
Friendship breakups are some of the most difficult breakups to get through. Whether you were the one who ended the friendship or you were the one who was ended, there is a lot of pain that comes with it.
As Christians, we want to seek God’s guidance through this tough time. This post will discuss how to get over a friendship breakup from a biblical perspective. We will look at when it is appropriate to walk away from a friend, how to forgive and reconcile, and how to find hope in the midst of heartbreak.
If you are going through a friendship breakup, know that you are not alone. Many of us have gone through this type of pain before. Take comfort in knowing that God is with you during this difficult time. Trust that He has a plan for your life, and He will use this situation to grow you into the person He wants you to be.
Ready? Let’s go…
Disagreements are normal in Christianity
Paul and Barnabas had a disagreement. Acts 15:36-41 tells the story of how they disagreed about whether or not to take John Mark with them on their next missionary journey. Paul thought it was a bad idea because John Mark had deserted them on their previous journey. Barnabas wanted to give John Mark another chance. They argued about it until they finally decided to go their separate ways.
It’s normal for Christians to disagree with each other. We all have different opinions and perspectives. That’s why it’s so important always to base our decisions on what the Bible says. When we do that, we can be sure that we’re making the right choice, even if it’s not the popular choice.
Paul and Barnabas’ story teaches us that it’s okay to disagree with each other. We can still be friends, even if we don’t agree on everything. What’s important is that we always remember to put God first in our lives. When we do that, we’ll always end up making the right decision.
So, what have we learned from Paul and Barnabas? Disagreements are normal, but what’s important is how we handle them. We should always seek to find common ground and work together for the sake of unity in the church. But most importantly, we must always keep Christ at the center of our friendship so that He will guide us and give us the wisdom to overcome any disagreement.
When should a Christian walk away from a friendship?
The Bible is clear that there are certain people we are to stay away from. In Romans 16:17-18, Paul says, “I urge you, brothers and sisters, to watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles in your way that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Avoid them. For such people do not serve our Lord Christ, but their own appetites.” These verses show us that there are some people who we should avoid because they will cause division within the body of Christ.
We see a similar instruction in Proverbs 22:24-25, which says, “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.” So, we should avoid people who are easily angered because we may learn their ways and get ourselves into trouble.
There are also some people who we should not associate with because they are not living according to the teaching of Christ. In Matthew 18:15-17, Jesus says, “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along so that every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses. If they refuse to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector.” Jesus is clear that we are to confront people who are sinning, but if they refuse to listen even to the church, then I believe we are to re-evaluate their place in our lives seriously.
Quick disclaimer, I know some Christians are called to minister to unbelievers who are living in sin. I believe these people are anointed and called for that purpose and are supposed to be salt and light. (Read Matthew 5:13-16) When we minister to people deep in sin, we are never to let our light be distinguished because, in that case, they (people in sin) would be changing us instead of allowing the Holy Spirit and the light of God to change them. Please re-evaluate friendships that cause your light to be dimmed or extinguished!
Bottomline- Walking away from these friendships may be difficult, but at times, it is what God has called us to do. We should avoid people who cause division within the body of Christ and those who are not living according to the teaching of Christ.
Elevation requires separation
In order to rise higher, sometimes we have to walk away from people and things that are holding us back. It’s not always easy, but it is necessary if we want to grow. Just because someone is a Christian doesn’t mean that friendships don’t end. There are many reasons why friendships may come to an end, such as differing values, life changes, or even personality clashes.
Let’s face it…easier said than done, right? I totally agree…when a friendship ends, it can be challenging to let go. Why? Because we have invested time and energy into the relationship and may even feel like we have lost a part of ourselves. However, it is essential to remember that change is a natural part of life and that endings often lead to new beginnings. Just as we have the power to end a friendship, we also have the power to create new and even better relationships.
So don’t be afraid to let go of a friendship that isn’t working anymore. It’s not always easy, but it can be incredibly freeing. And who knows, the next friendship you form might just be better than anything you ever thought possible.
Elevation requires separation from things that weigh us down- including toxic friendships, or a friendship season that has ended. If we want to rise above our current circumstances, sometimes we have to let go of the people and things holding us back. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.
Can God restore a broken friendship? (forgiveness & reconciliation)
This is a difficult question to answer because it really depends on the situation. If both parties are willing to work things out and forgive each other, then it’s possible that the friendship can be restored. However, if one person is unwilling to forgive or reconcile, then it may not be possible. Ultimately, it’s up to God, and He will work in His own timing and way.
There are many Bible verses about forgiveness and reconciliation, such as Matthew 18:21-22, which says, “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered him, “I tell you, not seven times but seventy-seven times.” This verse shows us that we are to forgive others, even when they sin against us multiple times. It’s not easy, but it’s what God calls us to do.
There are also many stories in the Bible about forgiveness and reconciliation. For example, the story of Joseph forgiving his brothers (Genesis 50:15-21). This is an excellent example of how God can work through our relationships, even when they are broken. If we are willing to forgive and reconcile, He can use even the most difficult situations for good.
If you are going through a friendship breakup, know that you are not alone. Seek God’s wisdom and guidance on how to handle the situation. He will give you the strength and wisdom to know what to do. Trust Him to work in your life and your relationships, even when they are broken. He is the ultimate restorer and can make all things new. (Revelation 21:05) “Behold, I am making all things new.”
So… God can restore broken friendships…Just because you have had a disagreement or fight with someone does not mean that the friendship is over. It takes two people to make up and reconcile, but it only takes one person to initiate reconciliation.
Here are a few takeaways regarding reconciliation:
- Forgiveness is key in any relationship – especially friendships. Without forgiveness, relationships will be strained and eventually break. It’s not easy to forgive, but it is so worth it in the end.
- No friendship is perfect – but they are so worth fighting for. If you are going through a tough time with a friend, remember that God is faithful, and He can restore any broken relationship.
Bible verses on fostering good friendships
Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.
Psalm 133:1 Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!
Ecclesiastes 4:12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.
Romans 12:15-16 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. 16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position.[a] Do not be conceited.
Titus 3 (Read the entire chapter)
Philippians 2 (Read the entire chapter)
9 ways to get over a friendship breakup
Here are nine ways to get over a friendship breakup from a Christian perspective:
Prayer is essential during this time. Lift up your heartache to God and ask Him for His strength and guidance. Spend time in His Word and allow Him to speak truth into your life.
2. Seek Wise counsel
Seek wise counsel from trusted friends or mentors who can offer godly advice on how to handle this situation.
3. Give yourself time to grieve
Give yourself time to grieve. It’s okay to feel the hurt and pain that comes with a friendship breakup. Don’t try to push through it too quickly. Allow yourself time to process what happened and how you’re feeling. This doesn’t mean wallowing in your sorrows or dwelling on what went wrong. Instead, give yourself permission to feel the pain and then let it go.
Journaling can help you gain clarity about what you want in a friendship and how to create healthier relationships. Write down your thoughts and feelings in a journal. This can be a helpful way to process your emotions and work through the pain.
5. Seek Guidance from God
Talk to God about your friendships. Seek His guidance on how He wants you to interact with each friend. Ask Him to help you see each person the way He does.
Pursue healthy activities that will help you take care of yourself during this time. This might include exercise, spending time outdoors, cooking healthy meals, or reading uplifting books.
7. Focus on the positive
Focus on the positive aspects of your life and your friendships. Don’t dwell on what you’ve lost, but be thankful for what you still have.
8. Seek forgiveness
Seek forgiveness from those you have hurt and forgive those who have hurt you. This is a crucial step in the healing process.
9. Trust God
Finally, trust that God has a plan for your life. He will use this situation to grow you into the person He wants you to be. Allow Him to work in your heart and give you His peace during this time.
And that’s it, folks, nine ways to get over a friendship breakup
If you are going through a friendship breakup, know that there is hope. Seek God’s guidance during this difficult time and trust that He has a plan for your life. Pursue healthy activities that will help you take care of yourself, focus on the positive aspects of your life, and forgive those who have hurt you. God will use this situation to grow you into the person He wants you to be. Allow Him to work in your heart and give you His peace during this time.