7 Essential Steps to Break Soul ties | Soul Ties in the Bible

This post will talk about soul ties in the Bible

Do you feel like you’re stuck in a negative relationship that you can’t break free from? Do you find yourself in an endless toxic cycle of unhealthy relationship(s)? You may be experiencing the effects of a soul tie.

Fact: soul ties are an often overlooked and misunderstood topic in the Bible. This comprehensive blog post will discuss 7 steps to breaking soul ties and other topics like: What are soul ties? How are they created? What are the different types of soul ties?

So, whether you’re curious about soul ties or you think you may have a soul tie, read on for all the answers!

Ready? Let’s go…

My Story

The first time I heard about soul ties, I assumed that it would only happen when someone has a physical connection with another person.

However, when I did my research a few years ago, I was astonished to find so many layers to soul ties. The Holy Spirit convicted me because I had made a vow to someone on an emotional level, and I realized that vows are a way that soul ties can be formed! One book that helped me to come to this realization is Terri Savelle Foy’s “Untangle” book.

After this revelation, I confessed to God and sought to break the emotional soul tie that I unknowingly created by a careless confession when I was 18 years old. So this blog post is from years of research. I hope it blesses someone out there!

What are Soul Ties?

A soul tie is a spiritual connection between two people. In Hebrew, the word “soul” is “nephesh,” and it refers to our emotions, will, and intellect. So, a soul tie is an emotional and spiritual connection between two people.

Most of the time, when Christians talk about soul ties, they are talking about negative soul ties. These are soul ties that are formed in unhealthy relationships. An unhealthy relationship is one that is based on control, manipulation, and unhealthy dependency. Soul ties can form between friends, family members, co-workers, or anyone else with whom we have a close relationship.

The Bible talks about both good and bad soul ties. A good soul tie brings two people closer to God and each other. A bad soul tie pulls us away from God and into sin. We can have soul ties with anyone, but we should be careful who we allow to get close to us. We should choose our soul ties wisely because they can have a lasting impact on our lives.

Examples of soul ties in the Bible

The Bible has a lot to say about soul ties. In Genesis, we see that God created Adam and Eve and then brought them together as one. Why did this happen? God did this so that they could have a deep connection with each other. Soul ties are meant to be positive and healthy. They are intended to bring us closer to God and the people who are good for us.

“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”

Genesis 2:24

When it comes to soul ties in the Bible, one of the most famous examples is the friendship between David and Jonathan. In the KJV, it says that their souls were knitted together. This soul tie was so strong that Jonathan continued to protect David even though they were on opposite sides of a war.

And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.

1 Samuel 18:1

Types of soul ties

Let’s quickly go over the types of soul ties:

Positive(healthy) vs. Negative(unhealthy)

Soul ties can have a positive or negative effect on our lives. Healthy soul ties can help us feel supported, loved, and connected. They can also provide us with a sense of security and belonging. On the other hand, unhealthy soul ties can leave us feeling drained, anxious, and alone. They can also cause us to act in ways that are harmful to ourselves and others. So, it is crucial to be aware of the different types of soul ties in our lives and how they affect us.

Godly and ungodly

Godly soul ties are formed when we connect with someone through a shared love for God. These types of connections can be very positive and healthy.

On the other hand, Ungodly soul ties are formed when we connect with someone in a way that is not based on our love for God. These types of connections can be very damaging and destructive.

How soul ties are created/formed

Here are the 3 ways soul ties are formed:

1. Emotional

One way that soul ties are created is through emotional connections. When we share our feelings with someone, and they respond in a supportive and understanding way, we create a healthy emotional connection. This type of connection can help us to feel loved and supported. On the other hand, if we share our feelings with someone and they respond in a judgmental or critical way, we create an unhealthy emotional connection. This type of connection can leave us feeling alone and unsupported.

2. Physical

Another way that soul ties are created is through physical touch. When we hug, kiss, or have sex with someone, we create a physical connection. Depending on the situation, this type of connection can be either healthy or unhealthy. If we are in a healthy and loving relationship, physical touch can help to strengthen the bond between us.

3. Spiritual

Spiritual soul ties are the strongest and most influential. They are created through shared spiritual experiences, prayer, worship, meditation, etc. When two people share a strong spiritual connection, they form a soul tie.

Symptoms of a negative soul tie include

So how can you tell if you have a soul tie with someone? One way to tell is by looking at your behavior. If you find yourself attracted to the wrong kinds of people, or if you find yourself in unhealthy relationships, it may be because of a negative soul tie or an ungodly soul tie. Another way to tell is by looking at your thoughts. If you find yourself thinking about someone more than you should, or if you can’t get them out of your mind, it may be because of a soul tie.

  • Feeling trapped in a relationship.
  • Feeling like you can’t live without the other person.
  • Feeling codependent on the other person.
  • Feeling controlled by the other person.
  • Making excuses for the other person’s bad behavior.
  • Always putting the other person’s needs first.

Consequences/Dangers of unhealthy soul ties

These unhealthy soul ties can lead to:

  • They can keep us from having healthy relationships with other people.
  • They can lead to codependency.
  • They can cause us to sin.
  • They can prevent us from having a close relationship with God.
  • Enabling behavior.
  • Controlling behavior.
  • Obsessive thoughts or behaviors.
  • Fear or insecurity.
  • They can hinder our spiritual growth.

These dangers show just how important it is to break harmful soul ties. If you’re in a soul tie that is causing you harm, don’t hesitate to seek help so you can break free and live the life God has for you.

 Conversely, healthy soul ties can lead to:

  • Healthy attachments and relationships.
  • A sense of security and belonging.
  • Support and encouragement.
  • Positive reinforcement.
  • Love and compassion.

Are soul-ties always mutual?/ One-sided soul ties

Most people assume soul ties have to be mutual. However, soul ties can be one-sided. This means that we may have a soul tie with someone who does not even know that we exist. We may develop a soul tie with someone who is not good for us or who does not reciprocate our feelings. This is one of the dangers of pornography.

Pornography and internet connections are one-sided soul ties. These soul ties can be soul-destroying because they involve only one person being emotionally attached to another person. The other person is not involved in the relationship and does not reciprocate the emotions. This can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and rejection.

These soul ties can be very difficult to break because the person who is attached feels like they need the other person in order to feel whole. They may try to convince themselves that the other person does care about them, even if there is no evidence to support this. If you are in a one-sided soul tie, it is crucial to seek help from a professional who can assist you in breaking the soul tie and healing from the hurt that has been caused.

7 steps on how to break soul ties

	how to break soul ties christianity

Breaking soul ties is not always easy, but it is possible. With God’s help, we can break free from the negative soul ties that are holding us back and begin to live the life He has for us. Here are seven steps on how to break a negative soul tie:

1. Recognize that you have a soul tie

Recognize that you have a soul tie and identify the type of soul tie it is. Sometimes people are unaware that they have a soul tie. You can first work towards recognizing if you have a soul tie through educating yourself and seeking discernment from the Holy Spirit.

2. Pray and fast

Pray and fast for strength and direction. When it comes to soul ties, the Bible is very clear. In Matthew 18:18, Jesus says, “I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.” This powerful verse tells us we have the authority to break soul ties through prayer.

Prayer is a powerful tool that we can use to break soul ties. When we pray, we are tapping into a power that is greater than any force on earth. It is important to remember that we are not fighting against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces (Ephesians 6:12  ).

3. Read the Bible

Read the Bible. We should never underestimate the power of the word of God. It’s essential to read the Bible during this time for guidance, strength, and comfort. As you read, look for verses that relate to your situation and write them down. This is very important!

4. Wean or Cut communication altogether

Merriam Webster dictionary defines wean as an act of detaching from a source of dependence. So in terms of soul ties, it means that we have to strive to spend less time with the person you have a negative soul tie with. This may mean distancing yourself or cutting off communication altogether. You will also consider weaning yourself off of gifts and objects that have a connection to the relationship. This could be anything from a piece of jewelry to a photo album.

5. Renounce any commitments or vows

Renounce any commitments or vows you may have made, such as “I love you forever” or “I’ll never love someone else like I love you.” These vows can be verbal or written, and they’re often made in the heat of the moment. And while they may have seemed like a good idea at the time, they can bind you in ways you never intended.

6. Seek forgiveness

Seek forgiveness. The soul is the part of us that longs for connection and intimacy. When we experience soul ties, it’s sometimes because we have been hurt by someone close to us. The pain of these wounds can cause us to build up walls around our hearts, which prevent us from fully experiencing the love and intimacy we long for.

Forgiveness is an integral part of breaking soul ties. When we forgive someone, we release them from the grip that the pain has on us. This allows us to move on and heal from the hurt. It’s not always easy to forgive, but it’s a necessary step in breaking soul ties and moving on with our lives.

7. Seek professional help

Letting go of soul ties is a process that takes time, but it is possible with the help of those who know what they are doing. Breaking soul ties is not always something that you can do on your own. You will need the help of professionals or church counselors to guide you through the process. They can help you understand why you are still holding onto these relationships and how to let them go. If you are struggling to let go of soul ties, reach out for help today.

Bible verses on soul ties

Soul ties are not explicitly mentioned in the Bible, but several verses talk about related topics.

These verses show that soul ties can be formed with things we are yoked together with, things that we love or treasure, and things we are tempted by.

Here they are:

“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14)

This verse is often quoted in relation to soul ties because it talks about being yoked together with someone. A yoke is a device that is used to join two animals together so that they can work together.

“Can a man take fire into his bosom and not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals and not blister his feet? So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; none who touches her will go unpunished.” (Proverbs 6:27-33)

This verse talks about the consequences of adultery, which can be seen as a type of ungodly soul tie.

“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18)

This verse talks about the importance of fleeing from sexual immorality. Soul ties can be formed through sexual sin, so this is a good verse to keep in mind.

“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” (Matthew 6:21)

This verse talks about how our hearts are where our treasure is. Soul ties can be formed with things that we treasure, so this is an excellent verse to keep in mind.

“No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” (Matthew 6:24 )

This verse talks about how we can’t serve two masters. Soul ties can be formed with things that we love, so this is an excellent verse to keep in mind.

“Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in them.” (1 John 2:15)

This verse talks about how we shouldn’t love the world. Soul ties can be formed with things that we love, so this is a good verse to keep in mind. 

“For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world.” (1 John 2:16)

This verse talks about how everything in the world can be a temptation. Soul ties can be formed with things that we are tempted by, so this is a good verse to keep in mind.

Prayer to break Soul Ties

“Heavenly Father, I come to You in the name of Jesus Christ. I repent of all ungodly soul ties that I have formed. I ask You to break them and set me free.

I renounce all Soul Ties with (name any person, thing, or activity). According to Luke 10:19, You stated that you have given me authority to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy. With the authority, you have given me, I cancel all the negative, ungodly, deceitful, destructive, and hurtful effects this relationship has had upon me. I declare that the enemy has no hold over my life from this point forward.

I also renounce any soul ties that I unknowingly formed, which may be hindering me from walking in my purpose and fulfilling my destiny. I am no longer bound by them in Jesus’ name!

I surrender to you, My Savior and My Lord Jesus Christ. I love you.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.”

And that’s it, folks, soul ties in the Bible

In conclusion, soul ties are not all bad. They can be good, or they can be bad, depending on the situation. Soul ties can be helpful or harmful depending on the situation, so it is important to be aware of them.

If you have a negative soul tie with someone who is not a good person, then it might be best to cut that tie.

As always, pray for discernment. Thanks for reading!

Hugs!

18 thoughts on “7 Essential Steps to Break Soul ties | Soul Ties in the Bible”

  1. This was a very insightful read. I gained a lot of understanding of the different types of soul ties and recognising signs of unhealthy ones.
    Thank you for getting so in-depth and doing all this research to prepare something so comprehensive.
    Blessings Heather.

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  2. Thank you for such concise summary to break soul ties. My husband says he should never have divorced his 1st wife, nor married me because I am a divorced woman. He says he only married me for sex. We have been married 16 years and I feel violated and abused.

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    • Hello, Thank you so much for your comment. I want to send hugs to you. What you said really illustrates the fact that soul ties do go beyond dating and can reveal itself in marriage. In marital union, one expects to be heard, loved and appreciated so I do empathize with what you are going through. If you can, please reach out to a local and trusty church for further direction, support and community. Praying for you, and again…thanks for stopping by!

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  3. I really enjoyed the reading of soul ties, I love reading if it’s a good book. It’s book speak everything about my daughter partner that’s him all day. I pray for her every night and day. Fighting for her to get out this relationship.

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    • Hello there! Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing this. It’s heartwarming to know that this post resonated with you, and that you are interceding for your daughter! May the Lord bless you and increase you in this season. May the Lord also bless and guide your daughter. Warmest Regards, Heather

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  4. hey I’m currently stuck in a negative soul tie. I read all of the symptoms and almost everything in that list is true for me and it’s damaging me inside. Can you help me profesionally?

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    • Thanks for reaching out to me about your interest in professional services. ❤️ I truly appreciate it and don’t take it for granted.
      At this time, I am not offering any professional coaching services as the Lord has not led me to do so.
      However since I have received a lot of questions about soul ties, I am planning to come up with additional resources (workbooks) in the next few months that will be helpful towards healing and growth.
      Sending hearts and hugs your way, Heather

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  5. Thank you for the insight 🥰
    I do have a very strong emotional soul tie with an ex and it’s almost been a year since we were dating and I’m still trying to heal

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  6. This is true, my Mother In Law has never respected Leave and Cleave and destroyed my husband’s first marriage (lied and is even serving in a church but not minisry), husband abandoned wife. I had no idea of this when I married him and I was never supported by MIL, she covertly told me I was unholy our still born children not of christ (I am a devot Christian and I am in Christ). I have had cancer and bedridden and she manipulated husband to abandon me and now I am recovering from cancer he’s had all my money etc and I am facing homelessness and claiming handouts from Government. She always assumes the role of the Wife and controls all families relationships, so there is definately an unhealthy soul tie there bewtween her and her son. I now have all this to face alone and God refuses to remove my bond with husband who has been pressuring to divorce me along with same false accusations and surprise abandonment he did with first wfe all orchestrated by MIL. Prayers to help get God’s justice in the Heavenly courts is welcome. Yes, I do want my husband back because we loved each other until last 6 weeks of our marriage.

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  7. I was searching for anything I could find on Soul Ties. Hoping my story is not to long. My husband has been bedridden for going on 9 years. I work fulltime and am his caregiver. Now because of my own health I am no longer able to take care of him.
    Well last year I connected with a person from High School. We started to talk and he understood so much of what I am going through. His wife passed away two years ago, also being her caregiver for many years.
    The first time I met him there was a soul connection and I was truly surprised. After a while we became close and not so much sexual but an “Affair of our Hearts”………..God’s has spoken to me and is showing me that I need to cut ties with him.
    You have given me so much to ponder on and am needing prayers because I truly do care and love him. He is a Godly man its just we got caught up in this.
    I am still married and love my husband and will be with him to the end. My husband knows of what I have done and loves me still and forgives me.
    Oh Jesus Jesus Jesus
    thank you for all that you have provided on here

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    • Hello Brenda, I’m so glad that the Lord led you here! I first want to applaud you for love and consideration for your husband. This is admirable, especially given the health situation he is in. Being a caregiver isn’t easy…I’ve been in this situation with some family members and it can be a lot emotionally and mentally. I pray that the Lord gives you strength as you navigate this season. May he give you peace that surpasses understanding.

      I was just watching a video right now that quotes Romans 10:17 “Faith comes by hearing and hearing the word” Then it goes on to say that the key is the word “hearing” is present tense and not past tense- “heard” so you have to repeatedly fill your heart and innermost being with the word of God.

      Re: Cutting off soul ties, this is good what you did and I commend you again for acting swiftly. The enemy knows how to forge weapons precisely for us and at times- that is soul toes from an “old flame” or an old friend. Continue defining your boundaries. You are victorious.

      God bless you for your warm comment. May He uphold you with his righteous right hand!

      Hugs,
      Heather

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